You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.               – Jon Kabat-Zinn

Why am I always rush, rush, rushing around trying to do ten things at once? I’ll tell you why. Because I set unrealistic goals with impossible time frames and then apply excruciating pressure to myself to achieve them.

Now I’m not talking about the really important achievements like climbing Mt. Everest or saving people’s lives.

No, the goals I’m pressuring myself over are silly things such as the need to complete a long laundry list of household chores before lunchtime.

What is wrong with me? Those things aren’t important. Am I really being productive or just busy? What makes me put so much pressure on myself? My biggest problem is . . . me!

Here I am teaching people how to live an exhilarated life and I’m accelerating my own stress.


I guess after all the years of juggling work and a family, I am in the habit of trying to fit as much as possible into every minute of the day. It’s time for me to hop off the stress treadmill and remember what we tell people in our workshop.

Thinking about the ocean principle helps me put things in perspective.

We get so focused on a “wave” (or a task) that it dominates our life. If we go just below the surface, though, that wave begins to look like no big deal. Go even deeper and our world becomes even more calm and peaceful.

Those seemingly turbulent “waves” are now so far above and such a small part of the ocean, they become inconsequential. Just like my trivial tasks.

I’m tired of getting snagged on all the little details. It’s time for me to consciously practice finding that mental calmness that I find deep within myself, below the waves.

Finding freedom from the many trivial pursuits is not so much a doing as an undoing, letting go of my need to be a perfect wife, mother, and person. I’m already okay as is – not because of the things I do or “get done”.

I’m going to focus on finding my strength and power through stillness. Come join me. Those chores can wait. Let’s play in the waves . . .