Find your balance

Sometimes I lose my balance. No, I don’t mean I fall over. But I get overly zealous in one area of my life to the detriment of another. Or even worse, I convince myself I can do it all. I engage my super-woman mindset and set unrealistic goals and deadlines, determined to work harder and longer.

Watching me as I juggle three chores at once, my husband sometimes accuses me of not being able to sit still. I stubbornly resist his revelation saying I’m just being “efficient” by multi-tasking. But then I realize . . . he’s right.

I get a bit cranky when this happens – my body, mind and spirit are not in harmony. I’m learning how that uncomfortable sense of feeling out of balance can be an important signal. My inner core is trying to tell me that things aren’t quite right.

While it may be our natural tendency to just ignore these internal messages, it’s a better idea to LISTEN and then REFLECT on these subtle intuitions:

  • Do I persistently keep doing some things I really don’t need to do?
  • Am I so hurried and impatient that I can’t relax and get centered?
  • Do I somehow sabotage my attempts to find balance and serenity?
  • Am I judging myself by how quickly I can get things done?
  • Do I add things to my plate that serve no purpose for me?
  • Am I so focused on the needs of others that I’m neglecting myself?

Whenever you feel out of balance – on edge and stressed, you can invite peace back into your life. Close your eyes and imagine yourself as a tall, beautiful palm tree. With strong, secure roots, stand firm and centered as you gently sway in the tropical breeze.

Are you there in your thoughts? Good! Now . . .

  1. Clear your mind. BREATHE deeply and slowly for a few moments. Just RELAX. Detach from your frantic thinking and splash yourself with a little tropical tranquility. Picture your life in sweet, peaceful balance.
  2. Put things in perspective. Tune in to your deeper self and ask what things you should NOT be doing. Examine those areas where you feel out of balance. Be honest with yourself.
  3. Let go of energy drainers. Sometimes out of habit or misguided responsibility, we do things that deplete our positive energy but offer no satisfaction. Practice setting boundaries. Empower yourself with the word “no.”
  4. Make smart choices. Structure your time according to what’s important to you. Focus your energy on the tasks and experiences that bring you joy and feed your soul.
  5. Generate cooperation. Surround yourself with people who support and care about you. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. No one is an island (even though we all want to live on one)!
  6. Choose productive attitudes and behaviors. Remind yourself that you are in control of your life. Your thoughts, what you feel and how you react are always up to you.
  7. Be gentle with yourself. Harsh judgments and unrealistic expectations serve no purpose. Remove whatever measuring stick you’re using to determine worth and value. You are already good enough – just the way you are.

Be mindful of any symptoms warning you that you’ve lost your balance. That twitchy eye or pain in the neck may be trying to tell you something.

Set your intention to keep your body, mind and spirit in balance. Flourish like a palm tree, steadfast yet flexible, a symbol of health and longevity. Gently return to your center whenever the winds of life blow you off balance.

Living in balance is a choice you can make. Your core, the essence of your being, is always calm and tranquil. By taking care of yourself, you’re helping to make your life . . . and the world . . . a better place.


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